With is better than for. This is true in marriages, in families, in business, in organizations, in friendships, in life.
In the concept of leadership, consider these principles:
- Good leaders nurture a with culture not a for culture.
- Any form of isolation encourages for thinking.
- If you view those under your leadership in a for view, you’ll be tempted to be more about the work than the person. This may lead to you consciously or subconsciously offload your work to the for people.
- If you view those under your leadership in a with view, chances improve that you won’t be tempted to offload your work. You and your team will own the work together.
- Cultures of for are more prone to be fractured and competitive. Cultures of with are more prone to be unified and supportive.
In any setting, consider these actions to nurture a with culture:
- Be a delegator. Give others the chance to work with you. Give others the opportunity to own their role on the team.
- Be approachable. Literally leave your office door open more often. Go to other’s offices spontaneously or even schedule meetings in their space.
- Go to lunch with each other. You may even need to calendar intentional with lunches.
- Check your prepositions. Delete fors as much as possible. Be deliberate in saying with.
- In meetings, ask more questions, give space for everyone at the table to interject. Balance your amount of talking and listening. Listen for any indicators of for thinking and perceptions and immediately address the need to change them. Be a leader in withing.