When someone tells us no either directly in conversation or indirectly in their actions, we are tempted to take it personally. We are most tempted to do that when we were expecting a yes.
In my @youversion reading plan today, the topic was that God is a giver, in particularly a giver of choices. Here’s a quote from the reading:
When people say no, he allows it and keeps on loving them. God is a giver. And one of the things he always gives is a choice. But like a real giver, he also gives the consequences of those choices. He respects boundaries because he created boundaries in the first place.
So if you want to give and love like God does, you can give others a choice to say “No…
- …I don’t forgive you”
- …I don’t want your help”
- …I don’t like your decision”
- …I don’t want to talk right now”
- …I don’t understand where you’re coming from”
- …I don’t agree with you”
- …I don’t think you’re right for this position”
When you give them the loving choice to say no, then you will less likely take their no personally. It’s their choice. Give it to them. It’s okay if they say no.