(An “Own It” Series for Dudes…series resurrected. Four previous posts were August-October 2017)
Based on current reads and also interactions with dudes, it’s time to address a thing-the glaring decline in strong dudes. It’s a thing.
I’m not talking about physical strength. There’s probably an increase there thanks to gyms and fitness addicts. I’m talking about the rest of a dude’s strength-emotional, mental, spiritual-which are more important to build and maintain. So it makes sense that if they are more important, then they require more attention and intention. That’s work. Hard work. And it appears it’s not happening for many dudes.
Why is that? Let’s be honest. Working on strengthening your emotional, mental, and spiritual muscles has the stigma of being soft. Guess what…that’s shame messaging coming from the grunt section. How can something that requires hard work be soft, particularly if it brings you more holistic strength? I counter that not working on these areas is the real characterization of being soft.
If you’re up for it-the hard work of strengthening all of you-here are ten questions to get you started:
- What was the last yes you gave God?
- When did you last purposefully do something emotionally or spiritually uncomfortable?
- How do you manage your fight or flight tendencies?
- How are you addressing your present doubts and fears?
- How much say does God have in your decisions?
- What have you learned about yourself in the last three months?
- How are you engaging what you don’t understand about culture, relationships, or God?
- What was the last intentional change you made?
- What other dudes know you don’t want to be soft?
- What’s your level of being all in?
What other questions could you ask yourself to bolster your emotional, mental, and spiritual strength? Who can help you engage these questions? What will your fitness plan be to stop being soft?