Yesterday, I heard a dad make two comments in response to things said to him about his children.
The first was about his preschool-age son. Apparently he wasn’t feeling well. When asked about what may have caused the sickness, the dad basically said, “You never know with him.” He didn’t say this with disgust; more like, “He’s his own man.”
The second was about his elementary-age daughter. In talking about how they chose to sit where they were seated, she was given credit for the choice. Dad’s response: “She’s a natural leader.” He didn’t say this with pride; more like, “I can only imagine what’s in store for her.”
I don’t know this dad that well. We’re at the acquaintance stage. But these two comments tell me some things about him.
- He loves his kids.
- He respects his kid’s personhood.
- He’s parenting with the future in mind.
- He’s not a control freak.
- He’s pursuing contentment.
- He’s got a pretty good grasp on his identity.