I heard this quote today during a webinar:
“Men are developed the same way gold is mined. When gold is mined, several tons of dirt must be moved to get an ounce of gold; but one doesn’t go into the mine looking for dirt—one goes in looking for the gold.” -Andrew Carnegie
My mind immediately tried to connect this thought to scriptures like Job 23, Psalm 66, and Zechariah 13. But the context isn’t the same. These writers were referring to the outcomes of testing by fire. The imagery of mining for gold brings out a different challenge, even opportunity.
The webinar focused on a style of coaching labeled compassionate. Bottom-line premise: approach coaching as both you and the coachee looking for gold. Expect dirt moving to be necessary, but be more focused on the gold to be found.
Brene Brown would call this generosity. Regardless of whether we call it generous or compassionate, what might happen if we all approached our relationships and conversations, including self-talk, with such focus? It could impact…
- …how we give employees annual reviews.
- …how we discipline our children.
- …how we chat with our neighbors.
- …how we engage gossip.
- …how we receive, “I’m sorry.”
- …how long we coddle anger.
- …how we analyze guilt.
- …how we pursue dreams.
- …how we set goals.
- …and most impactfully, how we surrender to God’s testing.
Here’s to better and deeper gold looking!